We are all fundamentally alone in this world. Sure, most of us have close friends, family, or at least some acquaintances that accompany us some of the time, but none of them will be constantly holding our hand for the rest of our life.
We are all alone in this world. Sure, most of us have close friends, family, or at least some acquaintances that accompany us some of the time, but none of them will be constantly holding our hand for the rest of our life. The only person that will constantly be a part of your life is yourself. This is a simple fact, and most of us know it. And yet, we tend to turn against ourselves, we tend to become our own worst enemy, forgetting that there is no one else cheering for us, that people are not going to support us all the time, and that if we turn against ourselves, we will suffer more than we have to and end up bitter, sad and alone. There is value in self-evaluation, when it is done objectively and with the purpose of growing and improving, but being critic of oneself can too easily become a form of self-destruction.
Your mind plays tricks on you
Even your own subconscious will try to bring you down. How many times do we let ourselves get into that vicious circle of self-pity and negativity? How often do we beat ourselves down, blaming ourselves for all that is wrong in our world? The answer is way too often. But the great thing about being a human being is that we have the capacity for rational thought, which means that we can choose to not let our subconscious determine how we think, act and feel. Do not let yourself be guided by emotions and feelings of doubt and self-pity. You can control your mind and tell it to shut up, for you know your worth. But, and this is key, you also have to be someone who deserves to be proud! It is not enough to simply try to convince yourself of your worth, it is also necessary for you to go out there and prove it! Only then will you manage to beat the demons in your mind that constantly try to get you to surrender to your weakness and to your vices. Become someone deserving of everything that you want, and learn to tell your mind to shut up when it wants to hurt you. You will succeed in doing this because you'll know your worth and will have tangible evidence that you are not whatever your subconscious insecurities try to convince you that you are.
Become your biggest supporter
Because of the fact that you cannot depend on anyone else for support and motivation, it is absolutely paramount that you become your biggest supporter, and that you use your mind as a tool for progress. Otherwise you are shooting yourself in the foot, beating yourself down instead of using your mind to your advantage. It doesn’t make any sense to voluntarily handicap yourself by not controlling your very own mind.
There is no one else but you, and this will become evident at some point in every man’s life. No one can escape from this and therefore you must make your peace with that fact and start working towards independency of thought and action, so that when that grueling loneliness comes creeping your way, you’ll be trained to not give in to despair and feelings of doubt and fear, and be able to control your mind and push yourself forward, encouraging and motivating yourself to get out of that dark hole.
You must make your peace with that fact and start working towards independency of thought and action, so that when that grueling loneliness comes creeping your way, you’ll be trained to not give in to despair and feelings of doubt and fear.